When you find yourself in the waiting room

When we face infertility we often find ourselves in waiting rooms, okay lets be honest we find ourselves in a lot of waiting rooms.  We sit in waiting rooms at our primary doctor, specialist, then possibly at the hospital.  We sit around and hear other names called, but our name is never called.  Ms. Smith, Ms. Robinson, Ms. Reynolds, and yet our name isn't called.  We wait, and wait, and wait.  During this time our anxiety increases, and sadly our hope begins to decrease.  Have you found yourself in this waiting room?  I have. 

You sit there waiting for your name to be called.  You see the pregnant woman across the room rubbing her baby bump.  You avoid eye contact as the tears begin to form in your eyes.  In an attempt to avoid crying you look to the other side of the room.  There you see the new mom with the baby in her arms.  Your eyes begin to sting, the tears cloud your vision, and your mind starts racing.  You want to run out of that room and never return, yet you desperately wait and want to hear your name called.

If you have found yourself in this same spot, take a step back with me to look at the big picture.  You see as humans we often look at the small picture - waiting on our name to be called.  We focus on what the treatment is, what the procedure is, and what our goal is.  However, if we step back and look at it as a Christian first then we see ourselves sitting in a much bigger waiting room.  We find ourselves in God's waiting room.  The Bible tells us that everything is perfect in God's time, but in this waiting room that is so hard to feel comfort in.  You do not know it when you look around the room, but the woman rubbing her baby bump is in tremendous fear as this baby is the rainbow after the storm.  She has battled infertility, and after a miscarriage she is finally feeling her baby kick.  The woman with the baby in her arms has gone through rounds of medication, injections, and after years of trying she had to adopt.  Looking around the room we do not know each others stories.  That is why it is so important for us to talk about infertility and encourage each other.

Infertility is a difficult battle with a great support system, and some dealing with infertility do not have that support system.  Their family and friends may have given up on waiting.  They are tired of hearing about the tests, the medication, and even the desire for you to have your own child.  They may try to offer comfort by suggesting adoption, foster parenting, surrogates, or even ask you to give up the battle. 

Join us in this waiting room which we call God's Infertility Waiting Room and lets work together encourage each other, support each other, and get guidance from God on how we should handle this waiting room. 

Chrissy